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[May. 28th, 2010|10:29 am]
35+ Moms with new babies


thanks to all the ladies who responded to my previous post...c-setion vs vbac. the stories you shared were amazing. i know this is totally a personal decision so i appreciate your candor.

however, i do wish one of you had a crystal ball that could tell me how it was all going to work out so i could stop worrying about this. it seems like a c-section might be less traumatic for my little one that is already here since we could stay home and everything would be scheduled. but i really want to experience natural birth...if possible. i feel like i kind of missed out with her.. i wanted a vaginal birthing experience which is why i waited that long anyway. and i would've waited longer if it didn't mean putting my little one at risk. and still i don't want to risk it with her. i know this is going to be a huge change in her life as well so part of me feels like i should make it as easy of a transition for her as possible. even though deep down i want to scream vbac....vbac...vbac...like my own personal cheerleader. although even as i type that i get a twinge of guilt.
this will be something i will be posting about for months to come. please bear with me as i work this out. comments are very welcome.

[User Picture]From: kateaw
2010-05-28 06:55 pm (UTC)
I somehow missed your previous entry and have no personal experience of vbac, apart from being born that way :)

I just wanted to say good luck and I hope all goes according to plan on the day.
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[User Picture]From: anoutlet
2010-05-28 07:02 pm (UTC)
i left the subject blank...might be why you missed it.
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[User Picture]From: bondo
2010-05-28 06:59 pm (UTC)
I missed the original entry. But I had a Vbac with my second and it was amazing. I was scared too and thought my scar would rupture and nothing like that happened. I even delivered a 9lb 8oz baby and was fine. I pushed for 40 minutes and she was out. I would highly, highly recommend the Vbac. It was such a great experience. I should mention that I had the Vbac one month before my 40th birthday. All was fine!
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[User Picture]From: anoutlet
2010-05-28 07:02 pm (UTC)
now that is what i am hoping for.
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[User Picture]From: bondo
2010-05-28 07:05 pm (UTC)
You can have that!

Believe me I was so scared of the Vbac, but it was just so great. My labour went on for about 7 hours. She was posterior, so the nurse had me lay on my side and push. She turned over and started coming out. Literally, 40 minutes of pushing and there she was.

I stayed in the hospital one night and was home and okay enough to care for both kids. I was tired yes! But, not on pain meds or anything. It was so much easier after and less stress on the baby.

Think about it! It`s good you`re getting advice!
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[User Picture]From: ppplmgwiw
2010-05-28 07:06 pm (UTC)
No crystal ball, sadly, but I do want to say that I empathize and really hope that whatever happens, you make a decision that feels right for you and your family. I get angry that it has to come down to these kinds of choices--VBAC should be something that every woman can choose if she wants to.

We don't know each other, but if you need a listening ear, remember my name--I'm happy to offer any kind of support I can. (In the spirit of full disclosure, I'm in the process of becoming a Lamaze certified childbirth educator and I am launching a pre- and postnatal fitness business, in addition to my regular 'day jobs' as a researcher/writer/professor, so I have strong personal feelings on the topic but I also bring a professional angle of vision, which tends to keep my dogma in check, lol.)
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[User Picture]From: antonia3001
2010-05-28 09:14 pm (UTC)
I send you best wishes as you embark on this birthing journey. My second was a VBAC and I also faced choices about birthing far from home. But your trip to the nearest VBAC hospital is much farther than I had to contemplate.

I ended up VBACing in a ban hospital. I researched the heck out of VBAC and found out the rates of any laboring woman needing an emergency c/s and the rates of uterine rupture (much smaller), and the rates of those with rupture who needed an emergency c/s (smaller still). I felt confident in the risks. And since my hospital claims to be able to handle an emergency c/s for other reasons except VBAC I knew they would be able to handle anything that was likely to happen with me, they just didn't want the liability. If I ever have another child I'm likely to try for home birth.

A 3-hour plane ride to the nearest larger hospital is fairly daunting. You have quite a decision ahead of you and I hope that you will be able to find a solution that works for you and your family and that you're comfortable with.

I also recommend visiting the ICAN website and online forum for both information and support.

Also, if you want a study on the best medical evidence between VBAC and repeat c-section, Childbirth Connection has excellent resources.

Lastly, one of the most important aspects of my VBAC journey was preparing myself so that I would be OK if I did end up with another c/s and know that I did all that I could . There's only so much you can control in birthing, so I just made sure I had done my best to be as healthy as I could, exercised to keep in shape, did positioning exercises to try to avoid another posterior baby, researched so that I knew the medically necessary reasons for c/s and the unnecessary reasons, and did the hypnobabies program to help manage pain in labor and also help manage anxiety.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!
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[User Picture]From: bondo
2010-05-28 09:29 pm (UTC)
I wish LJ had "like" buttons!

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